Today, a complaint was made as a woman tried to breastfeed her seven month old child while her other children were playing on a regular spring break day, at the Fun Dome. While there, apparently another mother complained to staff, because she didn’t want to have to explain to her children about breastfeeding, prompting a staff member to come over and offer a private place to nurse.
Fun Dome Staff had allegedly dealt with it badly, and managed it badly on their Facebook page with a less than amicable response to a commentor, but I think we have to remember something before we release our Internet Mom Wrath.
There were two people that are wrong in this whole situation. First and foremost the mother that approached staff complaining about the breastfeeding mother. How dare you? Who are you? Take the opportunity to teach your children that breastfeeding is a natural way to feed babies. Take the opportunity to teach your children that mammals create milk, and we are no different. Take the time to normalize breastfeeding in the lives of your children instead of creating shame. If you don’t like it anti-breastfeeding Mom, leave. You don’t have the right to ask someone else to breastfeed in the bathroom because it makes you feel uncomfortable about how to talk to your kids, those are your own issues. You should probably be talking to someone about that, rather than playing at the indoor playground, or mall, or moms group, or church, where you are likely going to see someone whip out a boob to feed a fussy child.
I’ve nursed an almost three year old in the middle of a Homesense store. I’ve nursed in a grocery store. I’ve nursed a newborn in Ikea. I’ve nursed in front of family, in front of friends, in front of adults and in front of small children. If I was at the Fun Dome, nursing my child, and was asked to find somewhere private, I would probably laugh in the face of the likely-teenage staff member. If I was further harassed by management, as alleged, I would be livid.
I understand that the situation may have been dealt with less than ideally on part of the Fun Dome, whose Facebook ratings have tanked with the hoards of Moms leaving one star reviews, raging against the indoor playground. Fun Dome has since released a statement, and I think it’s important to not become internet-ragey because unless you were there, there’s no way of knowing 100% of the facts. Even if it was dealt with badly – the hoards of Moms-groups-moms on a mission to trash the fun dome, over one bad call? In my opinion, it’s Shameful.
I feel awful for this mother, who was apparently being ridiculed by another patron at the Fun Dome. What doesn’t shock me though, is the amount of internet mom rage that’s coming out in the reviews, the comments and the moms groups that we’re a part of – because there’s something everyone should know, and that’s to Never Anger the internet Moms. Sure, be angry at the Fun Dome, if you were there, if you know the entire story, and if you aren’t just jumping on the internet bandwagon – otherwise, reserve your judgement for a small business that’s being practically blacklisted because of a story that hits a nerve with Moms.
And Ragey Internet moms? Let’s make sure we know the entire story before we vow to bring a company down because of a mother who doesn’t have open lines of communication with her children or an uninformed staff member/management.
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