Remember yesterday, when I got real about date night? We had a date night planned for last night. On the way to Grandma’s when we stopped for coffee, Olivia was feeling a bit under the weather. No fever, so I chalked it up to her being tired after being outside nearly all day.
Grabbing her pajamas, and crying, she clung to my arms and insisted that she didn’t want to stay as we walked out the door, completely out of character for this kid who’s usually running out the door to sleep at Grandma’s. I comforted her, asked Violet if she wanted to come with us, and ditched the plans for the kid free date night at Local.
We went to Earl’s, because they have the best virgin mojito (a six year old favourite) and bought Harry Potter on iTunes for movie night when we got home.
As soon as were in the car to leave, she was fine. Apparently, she just wanted to spend some time with us, alone. She’s so busy, with full day school and immediately running out the door to play with her friends until it’s time to have dinner, do homework, read together and go to bed – that it made me wonder if we’re spending enough one on one time with her.
Maybe we don’t do enough one on one time with her. When was the last time we had a mom and Olivia date? We hadn’t been to the salon to get our toenails done in ages. Jamie and I have been so, so, so busy lately and although we’ve been spending a lot of time together as a family, she clearly needed more one on one time with the two of us.
So, I’ve scheduled dates it on the calendar – because let’s face it, if it’s not on there I will forget about it and it will get skipped (I’ve got mom brain) to get us back on track with one on one dates with the kids, both of the kids, to avoid the date night meltdown.